Mei Mei's stocking is high on my list of Christmas priorities. And believe me, she will make sure I complete it! She reminds me every day!
I am enjoying this holiday season. I am mindfully willing myself to enjoy it. You see, a most terrible thing happened a few weeks ago. Lizzy said how she LOVES Christmas! And before I could stop myself I said I DID NOT LIKE Christmas!
How terrible is that? I was actually horrified at my Grinch-likeness! And that comment really made me think about changes I need to make to enjoy the season again. I am doing less this year--less buying, less spending, less outside events. BUT, I am also doing more! More time at home, more time with the kids, more time reflecting on the true meaning of the season. I am trying not to do anything I don't have to. I am trying to let go of my perfectionism and let good enough be just that--I've (almost) quit worrying about buying the perfect gifts.
I am currently reading The Overload Syndrome by Richard Swenson. Recommended. I found his chapter on "Choice and Decision" to be especially applicable to Christmas. Here are some of his main points:
- Simplify decision making by limiting choices.
- Simplify meal choices (I have started having pasta every Monday night, Tues is Mexican, Fri is pizza--even just having these three nights figured out is stress reducing.)
- Make decisions and stick with them. (When I see a gift in the store, I buy it and quit worrying about if it will go on sale, if I will find something better etc.)
- Value traditions (I'm a lover of traditions!).
- Be wary of advertisements knowing that ads complicate, not simplify decisions.
- Keep "good enough" over "better"--don't upgrade when we already have what we need
- Choose appropriate load, not overload. (Swenson says to remember that when we insist on living overloaded lives our choices not only damage our own well-being but also inflict damage on those around us including our families.)
- Own our own decisions and realize we can choose our own attitudes whatever circumstances we find ourselves in.
- Pray for wisdom in decision making--both big and small.
- Daily choose the things of God.